Thursday, December 22, 2011

Merry Christmas

Wishing everyone a very merry Christmas

“The true spirit of Christmas is love.” —Linda Willis

“Christmas is most truly Christmas when we celebrate it by giving the light of love to those who need it most.” —Ruth Carter

“Christmas gift suggestions:
To your enemy, forgiveness.
To an opponent, tolerance.
To a friend, your heart.
To a customer, service.
To all, charity.
To every child, a good example.
To yourself, respect.”
—Oren Arnold

“It is Christmas in the heart that puts Christmas in the air.” —W. T. Ellis

“The only real blind person at Christmas-time is he who has not Christmas in his heart.” —Helen Keller

“Christmas waves a magic wand over this world, and behold, everything is softer and more beautiful.” —Norman Vincent Peale

“Christmas, my child, is love in action. Every time we love, every time we give, it’s Christmas.” —Dale Evans Rogers

“I will honor Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all year.” —Charles Dickens

“Love came down at Christmas; love all lovely, love divine; love was born at Christmas, stars and angels gave the sign.” —Christina G. Rossetti

Monday, December 12, 2011

Einstein's Ability to Risk and Willingness to Be Wrong by Ron White

The early life of Einstein gives us some clues to the great man he would become. He was never one to dominate conversation to prove his intellect. Even as a child he didn't talk much. It has been said that he didn't talk until the age of 3 (there are conflicting accounts on this). But it took him a little longer to talk than the average child. Yet, we must remember that Albert Einstein was far more than average.

Einstein's parents hardly coddled their firstborn. They gave him tremendous freedom to roam and grow. This no doubt had a positive outcome on his development. When he was just 4, he was allowed to roam the neighborhood alone. Believe it or not, his parents even encouraged him to cross the street on his own at this young age. They watched the first few times to ensure that he looked both ways, but soon he was on his own.

Now keep in mind, when he was crossing the street, he wasn't dodging Fords, Chevrolets, Mercedes or cars with a lot of horsepower. He was dodging only true horse power! In other words, he was dodging horse-drawn carriages. But, it was still very dangerous for the young child. In our world today, I would not encourage my 4-year-old to roam the neighborhood alone or even allow him near the street. That being said, the principles of self-reliance and risk that Einstein's parents implemented in his life are ones we can perhaps model on a smaller scale. Einstein certainly modeled this behavior with his own son on a smaller scale.

In his late 20s, Einstein moved to Zurich with his first wife, Mileva, and their son. Friedrich Adler was living near Einstein and they became great friends. They would often get together to share ideas. Oftentimes their sons would get rowdy and it would be hard for the two men to talk. Other parents might barge in and tell their sons to be quiet, that they are having a meeting. Not Adler and Einstein. These great thinkers would climb into the attic to carry on their conversation. They allowed their boys to grow and explore even if they were noisy.

His freedom as a child and the freedom he gave his son were in part due to his attitude on failure. He was not afraid to fail. After all, he tackled some of the most perplexing questions of our universe. Many would have shied away from tackling these questions simply because the rate of failure seemed extraordinarily high. However, it is evident that Einstein was not afraid to be wrong or to fail.

When Einstein was 50, reporters were hounding him for an interview during the time in which he was working on a unified field theory. Put into layman's terms, this meant he was working on a theory that would explain the entire universe in a single mathematical equation. He had the attention of the world. Reporters parked outside his home in the vain hope for an interview. Many kept all-night vigils waiting for the story. As a rule, Einstein did not chase the spotlight and dodged the requests often. It was the same in this instance as well. He did, however, allow an interview with one reporter from The New York Times. You see The New York Times was edited by Carr Van Anda, and Van Anda had found an error in one of Einstein's previous equations. Imagine that! The editor of The New York Times finding an error in the math of Einstein! Don't you think that Einstein must have been irate that the editor would point this out? He must have been insulted. Actually, on the contrary, Einstein was impressed and that is the reason he allowed an interview to the reporter from The New York Times. You see, Einstein was not afraid to be wrong, and when corrected he was not insulted.

At Princeton, Albert Einstein was more like a kindly uncle. When he arrived in 1935, he was asked what he would require for his study. He replied, "A desk, some pads and a pencil, and a large wastebasket—to hold all of my mistakes."

Albert Einstein spent his last two decades trying to reconcile quantum physics with relativity. His Holy Grail—a so-called "Unified Field Theory"—eluded him. He once casually mentioned to a colleague that he was on the verge of his "greatest discovery ever," before admitting that "it didn't pan out" just two weeks later.

One day in his twilight years, he received a letter from a 15-year-old girl asking for help with a homework assignment. She soon received a curious reply: a page full of unintelligible diagrams, along with an attempt at consolation: "Do not worry about your difficulties in mathematics," Einstein told her, "I can assure you that mine are much greater!"

The man who was the greatest success at mathematics also failed a lot at them. But that didn't stop him from moving forward.

Not only was he willing to take risks in math, he also risked when he gambled. While attending a physics symposium in Las Vegas one year, Albert Einstein, to the astonishment of many of his sober-minded colleagues, spent a fair amount of time at the craps and roulette tables.

"Einstein is gambling as if there were no tomorrow," an eminent physicist remarked one day. "What troubles me," another replied, "is that he may know something!"

Too often in life, we attempt to spend all our energy demonstrating how we are right instead of accepting constructive criticism and getting better. This is not true of Einstein. Not only was he not afraid of being wrong, he was not afraid of being corrected. Ask yourself honestly: How do you respond when you are corrected? Do you lash out or are you grateful?

If you want to develop the mind of Einstein. You must not be afraid to fail; allow yourself the opportunity to fail. Herman Melville put it this way: "He who has never failed somewhere, that man can not be great."

Thomas Edison, when he was constructing the light bulb, built 1,000 prototypes that did not work before he successfully built the one that we still use today. A reporter asked Edison how it felt to fail 1,000 times. Edison replied, "You misunderstand. I did not fail 1,000 times. I successfully found 1,000 ways that the light bulb would not work." Edison, like Einstein, did not view failure the way so many do. They viewed it as acceptable and a way to learn and grow.

The fear of failure could have paralyzed Einstein and Edison, yet it did not. What about you? Are you so paralyzed with fear that you have settled for mediocrity? Don't allow that to happen. Embrace risk and failure. Learn that it is OK to be wrong, and run headlong into the rewards of risk as Einstein did.

Beautiful quotes about Success and Failure

Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person you become.

Failure is not a single, cataclysmic event. You don't fail overnight. Instead, failure is a few errors in judgment, repeated every day.

Don't take the casual approach to life. Casualness leads to casualties.

Success is the study of the obvious. Everyone should take Obvious I and Obvious II in school.

It's too bad failures don't give seminars. Wouldn't that be valuable? If you meet a guy who has messed up his life for forty years, you've just got to say, "John, if I bring my journal and promise to take good notes, would you spend a day with me?"

Success is not so much what we have as it is what we are.

Success is 20% skills and 80% strategy. You might know how to read, but more importantly, what's your plan to read?

Average people look for ways of getting away with it; successful people look for ways of getting on with it.

Friday, December 9, 2011

The Virtue of Gratitude

Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire. If you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don't know something, for it gives you the opportunity to learn.

Be thankful for the difficult times. During those times you grow.

Be thankful for your limitations, because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Be thankful for your mistakes. They will teach you valuable lessons.

Be thankful when you're tired and weary, because it means you've made a difference.

It's easy to be thankful for the good things. A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are also thankful for the setbacks. Find a way to be thankful for your troubles, and they can become your blessings.

I must take this opportunity to thank Dr. Vijay Kansal for sending in such words of wisdom.

Friday, October 21, 2011

The search for Happiness

All of us talk about finding happiness. But really, finding happiness is something that we all do, though often with little success. In fact, I would say that people today have a lot of practice in the search for happiness. It's just that they look for that happiness in all the wrong places.

Any of these sound familiar?

Over eating

"Shopping" therapy

Using drugs or alcohol

Affairs

Staying in unhealthy relationships

Procrastination

Partying

Looking for online friends

These are ways we try to find happiness but sadly we are extremely unsuccessful. In fact, these attempts at happiness often lead to more discontent.

Happiness is a skill

What most people do not realize is that happiness is a skill- just like playing a sport or music instrument. If you learn the more effective ways to play AND you practice, you can get good at any skill. Unfortunately most people have not learned the skills of what truly brings more happiness, so they are practicing unhelpful and sometimes detrimental practices in their pursuit of happiness.

To be happy, just be GREAT

Regardless of what is going on in your life, you can make it better, and it won't cost you a thing. All you have to do is be GREAT!

G = Gratitude

R = Relaxation

E = Exercise

A = Assist others

T = Talk it out

Gratitude: Be grateful for what you have rather than discontent about what you don't

We have a tendency to scan our environment and focus on what's bad, what "should" be better, and what needs to be "fixed." Instead focus on the positive elements in your life- be thankful for what you have.

Relaxation: Decrease stress and relaaaax

Relaxing doesn't require you to sit in an uncomfortable, cross-legged position and repeatedly chant "om," either. True relaxation, in which you flush the stress out of your body and mind, is just a simple way of being happier.

Exercise: Exercise your way to happiness

We are all familiar with at least some of the benefits of exercise to our physical health but did you know, though, that exercise is also good for your psychological health? Evidence shows that exercise can raise mood-enhancing neurotransmitters in the brain, enhances positive attitudes, releases muscle tension, promotes better sleep, has a calming effect and lessens anxiety and depression.

So get moving, and make it fun - go for a walk with your dog, bounce on a trampoline, go dancing, or play with your kids.

Assist others: Helping out others will increase your own happiness

When you help someone, you not only help the individual receiving the aid, but also yourself. Performing kind acts for others is one of the most satisfying and gratifying things you can do with your time. It helps alter your focus from "what is wrong with my life" to more positive thoughts like "I don't have it as bad as she does" and "I am really making a difference." Look for opportunities throughout the day to help others. You, and the person receiving your assistance, will appreciate that you did.

Talk it out: Use effective communication

George Bernard Shaw said that the "The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place." Arguments, conflicts and even wars have been waged because of problems with effective communication. Learn to really listen to others and then verify if what you heard is really what they meant. When you do, what a happy world it will be!

Sunday, October 2, 2011

Its the parents who ingrain in the child the values of living - I would like to share a Dad's letter to his child, which so beautifully gives a positive perspective towards life.

Do not bear grudge towards those who are not good to you. No one has the responsibility to treat you well, except your mother and I.

To those who are good to you, you have to treasure it and be thankful, and also you have to be cautious , because, everyone has a motive for every move. When a person is good to you, it does not mean he really likes you. You have to be careful, don't hastily regard him as a real friend.

Its so amazing how we as individuals, parents and teachers put a tab on our own and our children's and pupils's abilities and potentials, and also how what we believe to be true for us and for our dependents- actually defines how we perform.
We almost always tend to protect ourselves and our loved ones from going that 'extra mile' on the pretext of lack of physical and/or emotional strength- little do we realize that we all have in us the ability to surpass what we think we are capable of.
Our children need just that extra trust- our trust that they can do it.





Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Let’s aspire to be true to ourselves

Its been a very long since I wrote on my blog- something that I had started with an aim of helping myself understand my ‘self’ better and in the process help others benefit in their day to day issues. For the last few months the thought of not being able to connect to my self had been bothering me and the fact that in every counselling session I focus on making my client appreciate the importance of making time for what you ‘really’ want to do – something that I’m not following- was disturbing.

So , today I plan to break this pattern of procrastination by promising to my diary that I shall make some time twice a week to write something.

Here, I would like to share something beautiful I read.

The World Needs People...

Who cannot be bought;

Whose word is their bond;

Who put character above wealth;

Who possess opinions and a will;

Who are larger than their vocations;

Who do not hesitate to take chances;

Who will not lose their individuality in a crowd;

Who will be as honest in small things as in great things;

Who will make no compromise with wrong;

Whose ambitions are not confined to their own selfish desires;

Who will not say they do it "because everybody else does it;"

Who are true to their friends through adversity as well as prosperity;

Who do not believe that shrewdness, cunning, and hard headedness are the best qualities for winning success;

Who are not ashamed or afraid to stand for the truth when it is unpopular.

© by Ted W. Engstrom
From Motivation to Last a Lifetime